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Mosuo People's Choice --"Daughters Kingdom" leaves Lugu Lake
The traditional Axia system is marriage-free. Mosuo men call
their beloved women Axia ("intimate companion") and women call their lovers,
Azhu. They are not bound by marriage and will live in their mothers' homes all
their lives. Every adult Mosuo girl has a special Azhu house of her own where
her lover can visit during the night but must leave early the next morning. If
the girl wishes to stop the love affair she simply closes the door and then the
man will not return. The lovers have no economic or legal ties: Their
relationship is based only on mutual love and affection, where the will of the
female is highly respected. If children are born into the family, they belong
exclusively to the mother's side and inherit her surname. They are raised with
their mother and uncles and are not introduced to their father until their adult
ceremony.
The matriarchal family has advantages:
First of all, there are no complex relationships; the relations among family
members are simple. As a result, there are fewer conflicts.
Second, since
women serve as the heads of the families, they are in charge of most of the work
and handle property matters, while uncles look after the boys. Such a
blood-based connection may prove to be more stable than the love-based marriage
of duty. Thus, every family is harmonious and united.
 Adult Ceremony and Cremation
For Mosuo people, the most important things of their all life are the adult
ceremony and cremation.
Adult Ceremony
They believe that minors do not have souls. When Mosuo children reach 13,
they go through a special adult ceremony.
The ceremony is always held on New Year's Day. On this special morning, the
mother helps her girls put on beautiful new dresses and jewels while the uncle
helps the boys put on their new clothes and waist knives. During the ceremony,
girls stand on the right side of the campfire while the boys stand on the left.
They put one foot on a piece of pig's fat and the other on a bag of rice
(symbols for a rich life). Then they bow to the elders, each of whom gives them
a gift. At last, the bada (shaman) will drink a toast to the children. Then the
bada says: "Today is a good day. The sun is nice, the moon is nice, the stars
are nice, and everything is nice. You put on the skirts/trousers, may you living
a long life and having plenty of food and clothing..."
After the ceremony, the boys and girls are permitted to attend all adult
activities. After 15 years the teens are allowed to take lovers.
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