Escorting the Bride in
Dark
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| A Dong youth gives his sweetheart a silver bracelet in an
exchange of gifts. |
The bridegroom's family does not
have to prepare a bridal sedan chair, but send a way guide and another gift
escort to the bride's home. It is until the midnight that the bride is escorted
to the bridegroom's house. The gifts are simple, usually including 30 to 40
jin (1 jin = 0.5 kg) of pork, 20 to 30 jin of wine and some
dishes.
Engagement Tea
In Longsheng County, young people who find
each other congenial exchange keepsakes to confirm their love affair. It is
until the young lady sends the engagement tea to the young man's family that
their relation is made known to the public. The young man's family prepares
sticky rice cake, food, and drinks, etc., for his uncle to send to the young
lady's home. Relatives of the pair's parents then introduce the young man's and
the young lady's disposition, moral quality and so on to each other. Hereafter,
the two sides should scrupulously follow the promise and are not allowed to
break the engagement at will.
Way Guide
Way guide is a unique wedding custom of the
Dong ethnic minority. The way guide, a man who guides the bride to the
bridegroom's house on behalf of the bridegroom, is usually served by a young man
from a family with four generations, a flourishing population of family members,
who is regarded as the luckiest by local people in the village.
On the day before the wedding date, the way
guide takes the gifts to the bride's family. After the cockcrow, girls in the
village wake up matrons of honor. The girls won't let the bride go out of the
door until they eat their fill. The way guide should have the gift of gab and be
not afraid of interrogation. The noisier the girls, the happier the bride's
relatives, because it shows the bride is gregarious.
Change Lantern Cord
On the eve of the wedding, the way guide
hangs the bridegroom's lantern on the bride's door and hastens the bride three
times to set off. After that, the bride goes out of the door reluctantly. Before
leaving for the bridegroom's house with the way guide, the bride cuts off the
grass cord of the lantern, and takes out a plaited colorful ribbon to fasten the
lantern, indicating she and the bridegroom have already linked heart to
heart.